Blogging Tips & Why They’re Hard to Follow

As most of you know, I am still somewhat new around here. (By the way, when will I not be new around here? Hmm..) I’ve been reading a lot of other bloggers’ posts on blogging tips. Ya know, the do’s & don’ts for new bloggers, and I’ve got to tell ya, I’m having a hard time with a few of them.

1. Be Yourself. I’ve read it a few times now, to be yourself when starting a blog. They say not to worry about having the perfect “blogger look” with the pretty desks and gorgeous clothes. It’s hard to think you don’t need those things when it feels like 90% of bloggers do look like that. I think I’ve been okay so far, but I do find myself thinking I can’t take my own photos because my stuff is crap. Or that I’m missing out on SO many blog post opportunities because I don’t have cute clothes or a ton of beauty products. This, for me, is the hardest part about being a new blogger… Feeling like you don’t fit in.

2. Don’t compare yourself to other bloggers. This one kind of goes hand in hand with number one. I’m constantly comparing myself to other bloggers. I know I shouldn’t, but, easier said than done.

3. Don’t obsess over the numbers. GAH this one is so hard! I look at the numbers a lot.. But I think what’s different for me, is the numbers I see aren’t discouraging. I don’t see the numbers and think “crap, I’m a bad blogger!” I actually see them and get excited that this blog seems to be growing, very slowly.

My biggest blogging fear.

I’ll never find a niche. This one is difficult for me because I don’t fall into any of the big niches. I’m not into fashion, make up, or cooking. Even when I look at other lifestyle bloggers (like I categorize myself) I feel like I don’t have the same interests.

I know that many of this is probably just new blogger jitters. I’m sure most of the successful bloggers I follow felt much of this in the beginning too. That’s what I keep telling myself, at least. I tell myself that it will pass.

Why am I pushing through the fear & doubts?

I’ve seen this blogging community. These women (and maybe men? I don’t know, I haven’t seen any yet) are all so connected. I see this amazing bond you all have with each other and I’d love to be a part of it.

I have a story to tell. I suffered from major depression and anxiety for almost ten years, and I came out the other side of it, better than I ever was. I found a treatment and something that worked for me, and then I found a joy in life that I had no idea existed. I love telling my story, and I hope that by telling it I can help others may suffer the way I suffered for so long.

So for now, I’ll deal with the fears and the doubts, and I’ll keep writing posts that I don’t think anyone is even reading. I guess I’ve got to have faith that eventually this will all fall into place.

With that said, thanks for reading. πŸ™‚


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  • Trying not to compare to other bloggers is a biggie! It’s hard, especially if you know someone has been blogging about the same length of time. I have to get over that one.

    • Ya know, I never even thought of it that way. I’ve been comparing myself to bloggers who have been doing this for years, which is just ridiculous, because of course they’re going to be more successful than me! I haven’t compared myself to someone doing it as long as me. I probably will now, though.

  • I’m not entirely sure but I think you may have jumped inside my head and used it as inspiration for this post lol

    But seriously this is spot on. I especially find it hard to balance my personality in my writing. I’m very dry and have a sense of humor that can be difficult to convey in text. I also find myself wanting to keep my tone more “upbeat” because I don’t want someone reading to think I’m a miserable person.

    I just stumbled on your blog though and I love it! So who cares about a niche, I’m adding you to my reader anyway πŸ˜‰

    • I’m worried my personality won’t come through my writing at ALL. It seems like such an irrational fear, too. This blogging stuff is so hard sometimes. 😭

      Yay for a new reader though, thanks for stopping by!


    This sounds so recognisable! I feel like I don’t really belong to a certain niche either, or at least not to the popular ones. Seeing how most of the popular/successful blogs are writing about something completely different than I am is a bit scary at times too.
    Love your blog btw!

  • I think you’re doing awesome and you’re totally right that every new blogger has had the same kind of thoughts. You absolutely have a story to tell and I for one am happy to read it! πŸ™‚

  • Clearissa Coward

    It’s like you are reading my mind. I am still waiting to find my tribe, but I continue to press on. Great article and you keep telling your story.

  • Paige Strand

    So true, just continue to put out what makes you unique regardless of all the niche talk πŸ™‚

  • I love that you put out your fears of blogging.
    I’m not sure when you’ll not be new, I don’t know when I won’t be new.
    The thing that I do too much is look at the numbers, like 80 times a day. I know I need to stop. πŸ˜›
    Great post!

  • Jocelyne Shults

    Girl, I always say I’d never get comments but this type of mentality isn’t helping me at all. It’s all scarcity. So let’s start saying there are a ton of people reading your content. πŸ™‚ Thank you for the awesome tip.